Questioning gender, can someone give me some answers?

Gender is not black and white. There are men, women, transmen, transwomen, genderqueers, gender fluid people, people who feel they have no gender, etc. The society we live in only likes to acknowledge the " gender binary," or genetic males and females who are heterosexual, and identify with their bodies. People don't always fit neatly into the little categories that we have for gender and sexuality. From the information you've supplied it sounds like you're having some confusion about your gender and how it relates to your sexuality. I encourage you to read about transgendered people, and people across the spectrum of gender. The internet is a great tool for that. Read. Talk to people. Know that there is nothing wrong with you or the way you feel. Maybe you're a gay man who is effeminate. Maybe you're genderqueer. Maybe expiramenting with drag would be fun and helpful to you. Just learn all you can about these things.You might have to do a little digging, but you will find people who can relate and connect with you. Best wishes.